Finally my period has started. Even with the "definitively negative" phone call, I still had the tiniest hope in the back of my mind that it might be a false negative. It's good to KNOW know.
We had our debrief with the doctor over the phone yesterday morning. He wasn't very helpful, and we weren't surprised. He said lots of people think that when it doesn't work, it's a rejection issue; but usually it's more likely that it's a problem with the embryo's genetics. He mentioned the possibility of genetic testing, but didn't ask if we wanted to do it. He also mentione the fibroids he saw in my ultrasound back at the beginning of the process; he said that might be a cause of decreased chances of implantation. But I find it hard to believe that a few fibroids that he didn't care about back then could be the cause of our negative tests now.
Then he brightened, and said "you know what I think? I think we should be aggressive with this next try. I think we should transfer all four embryos, and then reduce if we need to. What do you think?" I said sure, go ahead and put that in my file, but we are out of money so we're taking a break. I didn't tell him that our break will most likely last forever. With OHSU's success rates the way they are, there's not much of a reason to sink more money into them.
So today the plan is to wait for two years or until we can pay off either the car or the failed IVF, and then start fresh with Oregon Reproductive Medicine, which has an amazingly good success rate - I think I read over 10% higher for a fresh cycle than OHSU. They also have a money-back plan which looks pretty attractive right now too. And in the meantime, C will do another semen analyis and see if anything has changed, and we'll be back to timing more natural tries.